Valentine’s Day Self-Care

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I never really thought that Valentine’s Day should be celebrated. I never saw the reason for people to feel pressured into spending money or planning big surprises. If I’m going to buy flowers for someone, why would I want them to be triple the price? If I’m going to go out for dinner with someone, why would I want it to be on one of the most crowded days of the year? Why did I need a material item to show how much I love someone? 

I still don’t totally understand why Valentine’s Day became such a big ordeal. BUT I recently started to understand the benefit of having a day to remind us to take a break, take a deep breath and focus on self-care or relationship-care. 

In my city, February is considered the worst month of winter. This year hasn’t been too harsh just yet, but I’m sure the frost is on its way. The days are short, the nights are ridiculously cold, and the sidewalks are slippy. It isn’t a great month for moods, physical health or socializing. 



Having a day for love in the middle of February – in the middle of winter – is actually kind of a great idea! I’m not talking about love of chocolates or poetry or PDA, I’m talking about self-love, family-love and partner-love. If you change the materialistic approach of Valentine’s Day, then February 14th isn’t so terrible after all!

If you’re in a relationship, then you have an excuse to cuddle, go for a long walk filled with deep chats or schedule a new activity. Spending the night doing something together can be a nice change of pace. 

If you’re single (or really, regardless if you’re in a relationship), then you have an excuse to pay attention to what your body and mind need. Self-care is essential for everyone and February 14th is a great reminder to spend some time taking care of the person who matters the most. 

Of course, I have some ideas for you whether you’re single, in a relationship or somewhere in that in-between awkward phase!


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1. Invite Your Friends!

If you’re feeling social, then you can invite your friends to stop by for a drink (tea, wine, whichever). You can host all of your single friends or you can roundup all of your friends for a relaxing evening. Surrounding yourself with people you enjoy is the ultimate self-care. Filling your house with laughter can never be a bad thing. 


2. Go For A Run!

Yikes… I totally went there. Okay, you don’t have to go for a run but you should get your body moving. Explore the closest indoor pool, go for a long snowy walk with your favourite playlist, turn on your BBG workout, etc. Take care of yourself by doing some physical activity and maybe getting some fresh air. Taking a walk in a new part of your city can be fun for your adventurous side too! 


3. Dust Off Your Hobbies

Remember those art supplies that are stashed away in a closet? Devote tonight to one of your hobbies! Between work, family, gym and social life, our hobbies can get left behind (especially if you work full time AND blog as well). You should spend the evening working on a new creative project – no matter what that might mean to you. If you suddenly realize you don’t have anything extra to do, then spend some time researching your next project.


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4. Netflix…

And wine. This year Valentine’s Day falls on a Tuesday so you know what you can totally get away with? Netflix and wine on a Tuesday night. Cancel the spin class, cancel to coffee date, cancel the dinner prep… just spend the evening on your couch with your favourite snacks cuz why the hell not. There’s nothing to feel guilty about because today is all about you and what you want to do. 


5. Reconnect With Your Body

I’m going to keep this short and sweet and you can interpret it as you wish. Your pleasure is important. Whatever you personally find to be pleasurable is totally normal and natural and you should spend some time every so often reconnecting with your body. Finding time to physically focus on yourself can feel really great and help relieve some stress. If you are feeling disconnected with your body, that is okay too. Just do whatever feels right for you right now. 


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Basically, the takeaway message is to do whatever you want to do. February 14th is a great mid-winter reminder to spend time focusing on your needs and your relationship needs. Whatever that means to you is the perfect way to spent Valentine’s Day. 

We’re planning on cooking mussels and fries, opening a bottle of wine and spending the evening not discussing work or wedding plans. Leave a comment and let me know what you end up doing! Enjoy!


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  1. February 10, 2017 / 11:33 PM

    First, yay for feminist lifestyle blogs! We need more of them in the world :) Also, really enjoyed this post. Self care is definitely important and can get swept under the rug while we’re busy with the rest of our lives. Hope you have a lovely Feb 14th! I don’t have much in the way of plans as of yet. We have an almost-3-year-old so odds are we’ll be spending some family time together as per usual.

    • rebecca
      February 11, 2017 / 11:11 AM

      Aw Thank you so much for your comment! I’m glad you enjoyed this post, and your Valentine’s Day with your family sounds wonderful! A good time to start a tradition of self-care for everyone – even your almost-3-year-old :D

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